Vagus Nerves! Both of them.

Also: can't recommend enough to make a "List" here on mastodon that's just you. Not all my posts show up on my profile and I have no gd clue why.
Not as helpful for older, since you can't search them, but great for "where tf did my toot 3 min ago go?"

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wfqhKKITC1w

No, you're not a bad PERSON for having been rude to a disabled person or people before.
But the BEHAVIOURS can be bad.

Yes, the assumption of "knowing" someone else's intent (often negative, from experience) hurts people.

Disabled people get that a lot. Ask me how I know. Yes, disabled people do it to each other too. Almost like we're also human individuals or something.

(d/Deaf people, I'm not trying to overreach here, sorry. I'm more responding to things other hearing people have said to me when I mention how gd useful and interesting BSL is.)

https://www.teachmesign.co.uk/bsl-courses-online/

No, not everyone else wants to "just learn English".

Should they have to anyway, just because it'd be easier for *you*?

Would you like to learn Portuguese, Swahili, or Hindi? Many people speak those languages too.

Except try learning when you can't hear other speakers very well, and it's tonal, and people assume you're being rude EVERY single time you make an honest mistake.

(d/Deaf people, I'm not trying to overreach here, sorry. I'm more responding to things other hearing people have said to me when I mention how gd useful and interesting BSL is.)

https://www.british-sign.co.uk/

While I'm at it: learn BSL!
(Or the gestural / facial expression language, created by and for d/Deaf people in your region.
ASL can mean American Sign Language or Australian Sign Language.)

Even just enough to say "hello, my name is..., how are you?, goodbye" is a huge step, thank you!

British Sign Language is important for d/Deaf culture across the UK. It's useful in noisy or distance environments too.

Consider pubs, train stations, through windows in a car or building, or communicating near a housemate, child or pet who is sleeping.
(These are examples of 'situational disability'. Anyone can be affected by a situational disability, including otherwise abled people.)

https://rnid.org.uk/information-and-support/deaf-awareness/british-sign-language/

Learn about Active Listening. It's literally just listening, tbqh.
Pay attention with intent to understand, not to form your reply.

Yes, this is a skill for d/Deaf people, people who are Hard of Hearing (HoH), people with auditory impairments or Auditory Processing Disorder, too.

(APD is like when d/Dyslexic people or other ND people struggle to understand what you say in a café or restaurant.)

To listen can mean "to intake sensory input or search for information" as well as "to hear sound or speech".

https://www.mindtools.com/az4wxv7/active-listening
https://positivepsychology.com/active-listening-techniques/
https://www.bhf.org.uk/informationsupport/heart-matters-magazine/wellbeing/how-to-talk-about-health-problems/active-listening

https://www.coursera.org/articles/active-listening
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Active_listening
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK442015/

Mutual Aid? It means "to help other people".

Mutual means something is shared, 'held in common' or by 'multiple parties, toward each other'. To aid someone means to help, support, or assist them.

You do not need to enjoy or 'agree' with other people to want them to not feel pain or discomfort.
You do not need to solve everyone's problems. You do not need to solve anyone's problems.

You're not their therapist, social worker, parent or carer, supervisor, auditor, personal assistant, or authority figure.
You are not responsible for their actions after you offer / give help.
Free yourself from that responsibility.
Be kind; then return to your own life.

https://www.mutualaid.coop/what-is-mutual-aid/
https://www.mutual-aid.co.uk/
https://simple.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mutual_aid

https://assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/769258/Mutual-aid-framework.pdf
https://www.fool.co.uk/personal-finance/your-life/guides/what-is-mutual-aid-and-how-is-it-different-from-charity/
https://assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/669047/Mutual-aid-briefing.pdf

Got money?
(e.g. your income or livelihood is stable enough not to affect covering next month's needs, plus some fun for a life worth living)

Now may be good to invest in local organisations.
Time, energy, money, equipment, networking, social media, cleaning, babysitting, etc.

My opinion? Focus on: youth groups, public health education, adult retraining, intercommunity outreach, and mutual aid.

Plus any fallible online orgs you believe in, e.g.
Internet Archive, Wikipedia, Posteo.de, Ecosia, PillowFort, Signal, SonarPen, specific indie devs and artists, Nebula, MakerTube.net, LiberaPay, Artisans Coop, etc.

LINK YOUR FAVES too!

Repeated small support is more reliable than big irregular donations, but 'better is always better'.

https://80000hours.org/

(also hi If you like how I phrase things and try to help people,
throw me $2 USD, £2 GBP, etc. Very thank. Much many.

https://ko-fi.com/mxverda or https://patreon.com/MxVerdaArt or https://mxverda.itch.io/ or https://liberapay.com/MxVerda/ or https://subscribestar.adult/mxverde or https://artistree.io/mxverda or https://twitch.tv/mxverda or https://paypal.me/mxverda
)