DoomsdaysCW<p>So, I've been revisiting some of my past experiences with my old coven. I reunited with several coven-mates last year, and discovered that my old tradition -- <a href="https://kolektiva.social/tags/Alexandrian" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Alexandrian</span></a> -- had split into two factions -- one that accepted transwomen, and one that didn't. If I ever decide to get back into it again, guess which faction I'd choose. And yeah -- unfortunately power dynamics, hierarchy and potential emotional and psychological abuse happens a lot in "religious" groups -- even <a href="https://kolektiva.social/tags/Pagan" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Pagan</span></a> ones.</p><p>I've managed to summarize the "Pros" and "Cons" of my joining a coven all those years ago...</p><p>Reasons I joined the coven:</p><p>1. Earth-centered religion with a political focus (Thomas Morton Alliance)<br>2. I learned Welsh from my high priestess.<br>3. My high priestess was a very intelligent, feminist, who espoused matriarchy, egalitarianism, and who was a Marxist anti-capitalist and a role model for me.<br>4. One of my coven-mates became my gay best friend (we're still BFFs).<br>5. Another coven-mate taught me traditional plant medicine and herbalism.</p><p>Reasons I left the coven:</p><p>1. I was pigeon-holed into "feminine" roles in rituals (even though I identified as NB and more masculine than feminine).<br>2. Over-bearing "acting" high priest (AIM member who was a bit of a bully).<br>3. Over-bearing coven-mate (AIM member) was distrustful of gay best friend (and was homophobic).<br>4. "Feminist" high priestess allowed herself to become emotionally and financially dependent on over-bearing coven-mate, refused to accept help from coven-mates (like having a room-mate, or other mutual aid), and when over-bearing coven-mate ran off with a younger, female coven-mate, high priestess fell apart -- eventually taking her own life (despite the support of the coven -- which soon fell apart as well).</p><p>And some folks wonder why I'm a solitary (though most of my witchy / Pagan friends understand why).<br><a href="https://kolektiva.social/tags/PaganPolitics" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>PaganPolitics</span></a> <a href="https://kolektiva.social/tags/GroupDynamics" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>GroupDynamics</span></a> <a href="https://kolektiva.social/tags/Hierarchy" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Hierarchy</span></a> <a href="https://kolektiva.social/tags/WhatSomeWitchesDid" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>WhatSomeWitchesDid</span></a></p>